I gave someone questionable advice recently. I suggested that she double down on her consideration to quit. Without a backup plan.

Any time we have to qualify a decision with “because I should,” that is our code red alert that we are not in full alignment with ourselves. We are devaluing our knowing and our self worth in that moment. We are saying to ourselves that the Others, They, the Experts, know better than we do. We are priming ourselves for a “resentful yes.”

Let me reassure you that I possess a surfeit of outrage and anxiety about the current situation but I’ve come to understand that imbibing and redistributing it on a daily basis is a DO-ing that yields nothing but more anxiety and outrage for me and has the ripple effect of stoking the fires of these feelings in others.